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It is important for a father who feels pushed away [by the mom] to say, in effect, When you do that, I feel unwanted as a father, or I feel my rough-housing is not bad parenting it's my contribution to helping our child take risks. Women cannot hear what men do not say.

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Warren Farrell
Age: 81
Born: 1943
Born: June 26
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