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Exaggerated portrayals apparently destroy desire more effectively than any repression.

Volkmar Sigusch

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Volkmar Sigusch
Age: 84
Born: 1940
Born: June 11
Psychiatrist
Psychologist
Sociologist
University Teacher
Exaggerated
Effectively
Apparently
Destroy
Desire
Portrayals
Portrayal
Repression

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Sexual desire declines after four to seven years. That's been proven.Because it's the most compatible with our spiritual origins. Father, mother, small family - that's the way we've developed our souls, the way we've become, and the way we feel safe, protected and loved.
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When it comes to sexuality, people like to tell lies. It's only when it comes to money that they lie more.
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