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With an intelligent couple, it ought to be possible for the husband or wife to look for satisfaction outside the relationship - while always taking the partner into consideration, meaning acting openly but still discreetly.

Volkmar Sigusch

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Volkmar Sigusch
Age: 84
Born: 1940
Born: June 11
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I maintain that we are still a largely ignorant society when it comes to sex. We speak incorrectly and superficially about sexuality. And when you talk about it too much, you run the risk of destroying its mystery.
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Sexual desire declines after four to seven years. That's been proven.
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Most young people seem to be behaving very intelligently: They look at things once in a while, but then they find it so idiotic and uncool that they just look away again. That is, provided they're not growing up in a family in which a drunk father is already watching pornos in the morning.
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Perhaps the couple got married at 25 and now they're 45 and this is an option. And if a couple is still together, or perhaps finds its way back together, I like to say that it's forever. They belong together, it's a good fit, it's the right pairing. It almost gives me goose bumps.
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The sexual revolution produced cultural convulsions that were unparalleled in the 20th century.
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I will always be referred to as a theorist, but I was only a fellow traveller with a degree.
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The things that could be derived from the sexual sphere - happiness, endless fun and the end of capitalism - were grossly overestimated. The symbolic overglorification was downright unbearable.
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You're married to a woman who has no objection to another woman joining the couple. Then she brings in her boyfriend. Suddenly you realize - my God! - you can love more than one person. In fact, you can love several people at the same time.
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The sexual revolution of the 1960s was mostly a movement of young people. I felt that the so-called free relationships were overrated.
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Exaggerated portrayals apparently destroy desire more effectively than any repression.
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Most pornographic images are simply too repulsive.
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There are many options in a marriage. If the couple has been together for a certain amount of time and has a certain amount of liberalism or life experience, it could be the kind of relationship in which one partner ventures into the occasional affair, which is then forgiven. This only happens every 13 years on average, but it obviously does occur.
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The social problem is that we haven't come up with any alternative models. Our culture hasn't developed an ars erotica. Think, for example, of conditions in India or in Japanese culture and of how the erotic has been cultivated there. They're not as clinical and rabbit-like as we are.
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Internet sexuality shows that we're becoming more and more self-involved. I'm talking about self-sex.
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There will be other forms in addition to our classic marriage. One is already looming on the horizon: polyamory, or having more than one intimate partner.
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Key feature of sexual revolution is the large-scale publication and commercialization of details that were once secret. Sexuality has been trivialized. The interesting thing about this is that exaggerated portrayals apparently destroy desire more effectively than any repression.
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Good sex can be anything, including dirty.
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When it comes to sexuality, people like to tell lies. It's only when it comes to money that they lie more.
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I'm reminded of a female patient who was particularly aroused by the shape of her husband's shoulder. And this hint of perversion should ideally remain a secret for both partners.
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It's important for a couple to talk about their sexual preferences. On the other hand, the aura of the mysterious should be preserved.
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