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You're married to a woman who has no objection to another woman joining the couple. Then she brings in her boyfriend. Suddenly you realize - my God! - you can love more than one person. In fact, you can love several people at the same time.

Volkmar Sigusch

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Volkmar Sigusch
Age: 84
Born: 1940
Born: June 11
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