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There will be other forms in addition to our classic marriage. One is already looming on the horizon: polyamory, or having more than one intimate partner.

Volkmar Sigusch

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Volkmar Sigusch
Age: 84
Born: 1940
Born: June 11
Psychiatrist
Psychologist
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University Teacher
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