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The older I grow, the more I realize how unfit we are for relationships. We are all such antagonists. It's part of the human condition to be deeply unfaithful to constancy. I do believe that.

Vivian Gornick

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Vivian Gornick
Age: 89
Born: 1935
Born: June 14
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