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Sex is the killer. Sexual love makes you feel more vulnerable than any other kind of love. That's one reason that people are so thorny and so vulnerable and so easily wounded when in love.

Vivian Gornick

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Vivian Gornick
Age: 89
Born: 1935
Born: June 14
Critic
Essayist
Historian
Memoirist
The Bronx
New York City
Sex
Makes
Thorny
Reason
Killer
Feel
Killers
Feels
Wounded
Kind
Sexual
Love
Vulnerable
People
Easily

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