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Problems are not the problem coping is the problem.

Virginia Satir

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Virginia Satir
Age: 72 †
Born: 1916
Born: June 26
Died: 1988
Died: September 10
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Psychotherapist
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Virginia M. Satir
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I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself.
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Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.
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Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.
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I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.
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You have all played a significant part in my development of loving. As a result, my life has been rich and full, so I leave feeling very grateful.
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I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.
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I know people can change-right down to my bones, through every cell, in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.
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Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
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I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
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We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.
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There are five freedoms: The freedom to see and hear what is The freedom to say what you feel and think The freedom to feel what you actually feel The freedom to ask for what you want The freedom to take risks on your own behalf.
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What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
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Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor.
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People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty
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You have learned what you have learned very well. It has helped you survive.
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The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
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Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world. It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.
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A growing body of clinical observation has pointed to the conclusion that the family therapy must be oriented to the family as a whole.
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I have talked about choosing rather than acting from compulsion. When you feel that you have to live according to someone else's direction or live so that you never disappoint or hurt anybody, then your life is a continual assessment of whether or not you please other people.
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It's sad that children cannot know their parents when they were younger when they were loving, courting, and being nice to one another. By the time children are old enough to observe, the romance has all too often faded or gone underground.
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