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What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.

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Virginia Satir
Age: 72 †
Born: 1916
Born: June 26
Died: 1988
Died: September 10
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Psychotherapist
Social And Health Care Assistant
Social Worker
Teacher
Writer
Virginia M. Satir
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