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We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

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Virginia Satir
Age: 72 †
Born: 1916
Born: June 26
Died: 1988
Died: September 10
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Psychotherapist
Social And Health Care Assistant
Social Worker
Teacher
Writer
Virginia M. Satir
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Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor.
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Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.
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We get together on the basis of our similarities we grow on the basis of our differences.
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The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand, and touch another person.
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No one's fingerprints are exactly the same as anyone else's.
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I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
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My dream is to make families a place where adults with high self esteem can develop. I think we have reached a point where if we don't get busy on dreams of this sort, our end is in sight. We need a world that is as good for human beings as it is for technology.
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It's sad that children cannot know their parents when they were younger when they were loving, courting, and being nice to one another. By the time children are old enough to observe, the romance has all too often faded or gone underground.
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I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.
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We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.
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There are five freedoms: The freedom to see and hear what is The freedom to say what you feel and think The freedom to feel what you actually feel The freedom to ask for what you want The freedom to take risks on your own behalf.
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The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
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I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.
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Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.
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The full life is filled with vulnerability, not defense. You face whatever feeling there is.
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Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world. It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.
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I know people can change-right down to my bones, through every cell, in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.
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Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.
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Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.
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