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A religious approach to marriage is the idea that if we work hard enough at something, we can earn the acceptance, approval, and life we think we deserve because of our obedient performance.

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Tullian Tchividjian
Age: 52
Born: 1972
Born: July 13
Pastor
Writer
Jacksonville
Florida
William Graham Tullian Tchividjian
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We make a big mistake when we conclude that the law is the answer to bad behavior. In fact, the law alone stirs up more of such behavior. People get worse, not better, when you lay down the law. To be sure, the Spirit does use both God's law and God's gospel in our sanctification. But the law and the gospel do very different things.
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Grace is unconditional acceptance given to an undeserving person by an unobligated giver.
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If people knew the REAL us, they would run. God knows, stays, and loves.
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People who know they are not good make the best messengers of grace because they are desperately aware of their own need for it.
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Job's unraveling wasn't wrong or sinful rather, it was emotionally realistic.
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When God saved me, He gave me a thirst to learn and to read and to study. I thrived in college. I got a bachelor's degree in philosophy and then went to Reformed Theological Seminary in Orlando.
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