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Even going through the motions is a way of establishing a new relationship with our inner life that is caring and tender, versus one that is judging, distancing or ignoring. This is the beginning of being capable of intimacy with others.

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Tara Brach
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: May 17
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Managing life from our mental control towers, we have separated ourselves from our bodies and hearts.
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We are waiting for the next moment to contain what this moment does not.
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That non-attachment gives us the freedom to be exactly who we are.
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If you let someone know you appreciate him or her, especially when you're going to disagree, it gets that person's defenses down.
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My first book, 'Radical Acceptance', grew out of the suffering of feeling personally deficient and unworthy. Because most of us are so quick to turn against ourselves, the teachings and practices of radical acceptance continue as a strong current in 'True Refuge': nurturing a forgiving, understanding heart is a basic step on the path.
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Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our lives as it is.
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When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.
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The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.
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I think the reason Buddhism and Western psychology are so compatible is that Western psychology helps to identify the stories and the patterns in our personal lives, but what Buddhist awareness training does is it actually allows the person to develop skills to stay in what's going on.
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Extend an act of kindness each day. No one has to know. It can be a smile, reassuring words, a small favor - without expecting something in return.
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But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.
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As long as we are alive, we feel fear. It is an intrinsic part of our makeup, as natural as a bitter cold winter day or the winds that rip branches off trees. If we resist it or push it aside, we miss a powerful opportunity for awakening.
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