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The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package.
Tara Brach
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Tara Brach
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: May 17
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Offer some gesture of kindness to yourself. Sometimes it's just a message, to say: It's okay. You're going to be okay. We've been through this before. The intention is reassurance, that you are not alone and you can do this. It is the most powerful way to come out of what I call the trance of unworthiness.
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