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Managing life from our mental control towers, we have separated ourselves from our bodies and hearts.

Tara Brach

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Tara Brach
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: May 17
Peace Activist
Psychologist
Teacher
Towers
Bodies
Mental
Hearts
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Body
Heart
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Life
Separated

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