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Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.

Tara Brach

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Tara Brach
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: May 17
Peace Activist
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