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Marriage is an an inherently contradictory state. It involves the fusion of two people into one thing. And it's also love, and it's a lot of work, and it's got glory in its drudgery.

Stephen Marche

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Stephen Marche
Age: 48
Born: 1976
Born: January 1
Novelist
Writer
Edmonton
Alberta
People
Marriage
State
Two
Drudgery
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Fusion
States
Inherently
Thing
Contradictory
Work
Involves
Love
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