What helps most is remembering that such a cry or attack or sly blow is a reflection of that other person’s inner state it is not an omniscient summary of you. Your reaction reflects your own inner state, and that can tell you which aspects of your own inner world are needy of attention. p.291

I have been using the word 'other' as though it were self-explanatory, yet who the 'other' is must always be something of a mystery. It is a mystery at an immediate level in the sense that no person is entirely knowable.

Your attitude to life is far more important in determining your happiness than your money, appearance, social status or talent.

Imagine the world we would live in if we dared to see all of life as sacred - unconditionally.

Opening to the sacred, we transform our vision of ourselves.

Restraint offers a space between intention and action and the opportunity to protect others from actions or reactions that should exist only in your imagination

LISTEN to the small, quiet voice within that only ever guides you with love and compassion. Let yourself receive the inspiration of beauty and kindness. Let yourself rediscover peace in your heart. And, from that secure place, meet whatever comes.

Love teaches you to care for others. It also gives you your best chance to grow up.

It should not be difficult to accept the idea that someone else is, in 'your experience of them', in part your self-creation. But it is difficult and sometimes impossible. Impossible because accepting the idea that you are in part creating your 'other' forces you to take on board a high degree of self responsibility. Few of us easily do that. p.234