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We camouflage our true being before others to protect ourselves against criticism or rejection. This protection comes at a steep price... we are misunderstood. When we are misunderstood, especially by family and friends, we join the 'lonely crowd.' Worse... we tend to lose touch with our real selves.

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Sidney Jourard
Age: 48 †
Born: 1926
Born: January 21
Died: 1974
Died: December 2
Psychologist
Sidney Marshall Jourard
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Worse
Crowd
Others
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Crowds
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Camouflage
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Friends
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