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The distinctive feature of my family was intolerance of sensitivity and emotion - everything's great, it all has to be great all the time and why do you have to spoil it? Whereas probably the most fundamental and important thing to me has been defending my right to tell the truth about how I feel.

Rachel Cusk

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Rachel Cusk
Age: 57
Born: 1967
Born: January 1
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