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As parents it is well to be aware of the tendency to equate energetic activity with contest. Our children's worth does not dependon their ability to trounce one another. And surely we can find ways of frolicking and being healthy and active together in some joyful, free way that is not an adversary relationship.

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Polly Berrien Berends
Age: 84 †
Born: 1930
Born: July 14
Died: 2014
Died: September 20
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