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Ego is something that you come to know - something that you befriend by not acting out or by repressing all the feelings that you feel.

Pema Chodron

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Pema Chodron
Age: 88
Born: 1936
Born: July 14
Clergyman
Philosopher
Writer
New York City
New York
Deirdre Blomfield-Brow
Feel
Feels
Something
Repressing
Befriend
Ego
Acting
Feelings
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