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Meditation takes us just as we are, with our confusion and our sanity. This complete acceptance of ourselves as we are is called maitri, or unconditional friendliness, a simple, direct relationship with the way we are.

Pema Chodron

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Pema Chodron
Age: 88
Born: 1936
Born: July 14
Clergyman
Philosopher
Writer
New York City
New York
Deirdre Blomfield-Brow
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Acceptance
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Meditation
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Unconditional
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Sanity
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Never underestimate the desire to bolt.
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We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.
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Use what seems like poison as medicine. Use your personal suffering as the path to compassion for all beings.
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Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.
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