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We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.
Pema Chodron
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Pema Chodron
Age: 88
Born: 1936
Born: July 14
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New York City
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Deirdre Blomfield-Brow
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