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It isn't what happens to us that causes us to suffer it's what we say to ourselves about what happens.
Pema Chodron
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Pema Chodron
Age: 88
Born: 1936
Born: July 14
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Deirdre Blomfield-Brow
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Meditation is not a matter of trying to achieve ecstasy, spiritual bliss, or tranquillity, nor is it attempting to become a better person. It is simply the creation of a space in which we are able to expose and undo our neurotic games, our self-deceptions, our hidden fears and hopes.
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Use what seems like poison as medicine. Use your personal suffering as the path to compassion for all beings.
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True compassion does not come from wanting to help out those less fortunate than ourselves but from realizing our kinship with all beings.
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