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Honesty without kindness, humor, and goodheartedness can be just mean.

Pema Chodron

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Pema Chodron
Age: 88
Born: 1936
Born: July 14
Clergyman
Philosopher
Writer
New York City
New York
Deirdre Blomfield-Brow
Honesty
Kindness
Humor
Without
Mean

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The essence of bravery is being without self-deception.
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It has a lot to do with developing patience, not with the check-out person so much, but with your own pain that arises, the rawness and the vulnerability, and sending some kind of warmth and love to that rawness and soreness. I think that's how we have to practice.
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Don't worry about achieving. Don't worry about perfection. Just be there each moment as best you can. When you realize you've wandered off again, simply very lightly acknowledge that. This light touch is the golden key to reuniting with our openness.
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The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves.
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The central question of a warrior's training is not how we avoid uncertainty and fear but how we relate to discomfort.
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I'm here to tell you that the path to peace is right there, when you want to get away.
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Things are as bad and as good as they seem. There's no need to add anything extra.
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It's important to remember, when we're out there aggressively working for reform, that, even if our particular issue doesn't get resolved, we are adding peace to the world. We have to do our best and at the same time give up all hope of fruition.
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People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something bad and they are being punished. That's not the idea at all.
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It isn't the things that are happening to us that cause us to suffer, it's what we say to ourselves about the things that are happening. The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.
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Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person.
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If you’re aggressive in your dealings, that’s how you’ll be regarded in the world. You might smile and give generously, but if you frequently explode in anger, people never feel comfortable in your presence and you’ll never have peace of mind.
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The third noble truth says that the cessation of suffering is letting go of holding on to ourselves.
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The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.
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But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are. We are one blink of an eye away from being fully awake.
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It isn't the things that happen to us in our lives that cause us to suffer, it's how we relate to the things that happen to us that causes us to suffer.
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As each breath goes out, let it be the end of that moment and the birth of something new. . .
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Let difficulty transform you. And it will. In my experience, we just need help in learning how not to run away.
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We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.
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Ordinarily we are swept away by habitual momentum and don't interrupt our patterns slightly. When we feel betrayed or disappointed, does it occur to us to practice?
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