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We continue to think of virginity as first intercourse. That ends up minimizing and marginalizing other things kids are engaged in, like oral sex. And it's not going to feel particularly good for girls as the big marker of adulthood.
Peggy Orenstein
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Peggy Orenstein
Age: 62
Born: 1961
Born: November 22
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