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While I completely disagree with the purity concept, it was the only place I saw fathers talking to girls about their expectations and attitudes to sex and expressing love and support. I didn't see liberal dads having similar conversations with their daughters.

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Peggy Orenstein
Age: 63
Born: 1961
Born: November 22
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