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At the heart of personality is the need to feel a sense of being lovable without having to qualify for that acceptance.

Paul Tournier

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Paul Tournier
Age: 88 †
Born: 1898
Born: May 12
Died: 1986
Died: October 7
Physician
Physician Writer
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Personality
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Without
Need
Feel
Qualify
Feels
Lovable
Needs
Approval
Heart
Acceptance

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