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Most of the time, I regard the judgment of people as a waste of time. I regard the judgment of behavior as imperative.

Nathaniel Branden

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Nathaniel Branden
Age: 84 †
Born: 1930
Born: April 9
Died: 2014
Died: December 3
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Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Psychotherapist
Imperatives
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Waste
Judgment
Behavior
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People
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