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It can be much harder to be on the receiving end of a transaction than to be the one who gets to give. In fact, being given to can mean being taken from. There is a very strong connection between pride and giving, and those who do the giving get to feel that they are worthy, while those who are given to often feel that they are not.

Merle Shain

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Merle Shain
Age: 53 †
Born: 1935
Born: January 1
Died: 1989
Died: January 1
Author
Journalist
City of Toronto
Give
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Transaction
Feel
Taken
Transactions
Feels
Fact
Receiving
Giving
Often
Connection
Mean
Strong
Connections
Much
Given
Worthy
Facts
Harder
Ends
Pride

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