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Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
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St Paul
Minnesota
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