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Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.

Melody Beattie

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
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St Paul
Minnesota
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