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Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.

Melody Beattie

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
Author
Writer
St Paul
Minnesota
Responsibility
Pain
Comes
Feelings
Others
Power
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Take
Responsible
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