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Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.

Melody Beattie

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
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St Paul
Minnesota
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