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Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.

Melody Beattie

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
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St Paul
Minnesota
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Overreact
Lives
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