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A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

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Melody Beattie
Age: 76
Born: 1948
Born: May 26
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St Paul
Minnesota
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Controlling
Affect
Obsessed
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Another
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