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I have always trusted writers, books, thinkers, psychologists in figuring things out. Maybe because they don't know me, so they are always honest, if that makes sense. Their wisdom and counsel are always unconditional.

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Melissa Febos
Age: 44
Born: 1980
Born: September 28
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