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Parents wrongly assume that their daughters live in a world similar to the one they experienced as adolescents. They are dead wrong. Their daughters live in a media-drenched world floded with junk values. As girls turn from their parents, they turn to this world for guidance about how to be an adult.

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Mary Pipher
Age: 77
Born: 1947
Born: October 21
Psychologist
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Mary Elizabeth Pipher
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