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When parents die, all of the partings of the past are reevoked with the realization that this time they will not return.
Mary Catherine Bateson
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Mary Catherine Bateson
Age: 81 †
Born: 1939
Born: December 8
Died: 2021
Died: January 2
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New York City
New York
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... as we age we have not only to readdress earlier developmental crises but also somehow to find the way to three affirmations that may seem to conflict. ... We have to affirm our own life. We have to affirm our own death. And we have to affirm love, both given and received.
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Fear is not a good teacher. The lessons of fear are quickly forgotten.
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Improvisation can be either a last resort or an established way of evoking creativity.
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In many ways, constancy is an illusion.
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