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The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

Marshall B. Rosenberg

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I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.
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We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
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If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.
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