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NVC is a reminder to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.

Marshall B. Rosenberg

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Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything that is not in the service of a need, there is no conflict on our planet at the level of needs. We all have the same needs. The problem is in strategies for meeting the needs.
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