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I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

Marshall B. Rosenberg

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A need is life seeking expression within us.
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Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?
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We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.
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It's never what people do that makes us angry it's what we tell ourselves about what they did.
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Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.
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It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.
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Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.
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Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.
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When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.
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Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
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Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.
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We are this divine energy. It's not something we have to attain. We just have to realize it, to be present to it.
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We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognize the needs and values expressed by each part.
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I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.
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