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If we want to be heard we must speak in a language the listener can understand and on a level at which the listener is capable of operating.

M. Scott Peck

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M. Scott Peck
Age: 69 †
Born: 1936
Born: May 22
Died: 2005
Died: September 25
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New York City
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We are most often in the dark when we are the most certain, and the most enlightened when we are the most confused.
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Community [is] a group of individuals who have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose relationships go deeper than their masks of composure, and who have developed some significant commitment to rejoice together, mourn together, and to delight in each other, make others' conditions our own.
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Whenever we seek to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But this means we then give away our power to that entity.
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I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit, and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.
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Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves. ... They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of self-awareness. ... [E]vil is laziness carried to its ultimate, extraordinary extreme.
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Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.
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The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention we attend to that person's growth.
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Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are not willing to do the work that most people do not listen well.
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Community is and must be inclusive. The great enemy of community is exclusivity. Groups that exclude others because they are poor or doubters or divorced or sinners or of some different race or nationality are not communities they are cliques--actually defensive bastions against community.
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Although the act of nurturing another's spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one's own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.
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Good discipline requires time. When we have no time to give our children, or no time that we are willing to give, we don't even observe them closely enough to become aware of when their need for our disciplinary assistance is expressed subtley.
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Discipline, it has been suggested, is the means of human spiritual evolution. What provides the motive, the energy for discipline? This force I believe to be love. I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.
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Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.
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Examination of the world without is never as personally painful as examination of the world within.
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But for the first time, I had a religious identity. I had come home. And so I called myself a Zen Buddhist at the age of 18.
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But I already saw no great difference between the psyche and spirituality. To amass knowledge without becoming wise is not my idea of progress in therapy.
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God wants us to become himself or herself or itself. We are growing toward Godhood. God is the goal of evolution.
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Everything that happens in life is there to aid our spiritual growth.
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Love is too large, too deep ever to be truly understood or measured or limited within the framework of words.
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One extends one's limits only by exceeding them.
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