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When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.

M. Scott Peck

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M. Scott Peck
Age: 69 †
Born: 1936
Born: May 22
Died: 2005
Died: September 25
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