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An unconscious, gentle process whereby people who want to be loving attempt to be so by telling little white lies, by withholding some of the truth about themselves and their feelings in order to avoid conflict. Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding true community is conflict-resolving.

M. Scott Peck

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M. Scott Peck
Age: 69 †
Born: 1936
Born: May 22
Died: 2005
Died: September 25
Psychiatrist
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New York City
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