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If the extrovert is trying to cheer up the introvert - extroverts are programmed to seek social rewards! - he or she may feel like a failure if the introvert remains unmoved.

Laurie Helgoe

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Laurie Helgoe
Age: 64
Born: 1960
Born: December 10
Psychologist
Billings
Montana
Laurie Anne Helgoe
Social
Extroverts
May
Programmed
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Introvert
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Cheer
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Extrovert
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Unmoved

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