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This is not to say that becoming a father automatically makes you a good father. Fatherhood, like marriage, is a constant struggle against your limitations and self-interests. But the urge to be a perfect father is there, because your child is a perfect gift.

Kent Nerburn

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Kent Nerburn
Age: 78
Born: 1946
Born: July 3
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Minneapolis
Minnesota
Kent Michael Nerburn
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