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For many men the denial of dependency on their mother is repeated in their subsequent relationships, sometimes by an absence of any sexual interest in women, sometimes by a pattern of loving and leaving them.

Judith Viorst

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Judith Viorst
Age: 93
Born: 1931
Born: February 2
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