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The psychological origins of love are in attachment to parents and sexual partners. We do not attach to ourselves we do not seek security and fulfillment in ourselves.

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Jonathan Haidt
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 19
Psychologist
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New York City
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Jonathan David Haidt
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