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Happiness doesn't come from getting what you want. It doesn't come from within, either. Happiness comes from *between*--from finding the right relationship between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself.

Jonathan Haidt

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Jonathan Haidt
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 19
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